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Maybe well-meaning loved ones regularly encourage you to break out of your shell and meet new people. It really comes down to what you want. Sure, healthy friendships are good for your physical and mental health. People need at least a little human contact in order to thrive, and true isolation can take a toll on your overall well-being.
The next time you start to feel bad about not being a social butterfly, keep the following in mind. According to research frompeople who spend time alone due to unsociability tend to report higher levels of creativity. You might already recognize that alone time boosts your imagination and allows creativity to flourish. Talking and interacting with others can distract you from attempts to brainstorm or contemplate possibilities. If you write, draw, make music, or engage in other creative activities, you probably need plenty of time to sort through ideas and pursue sources of inspiration in order to develop your work.
Solitude allows you to tune out chatter and other background noise and heighten your awareness of your own thoughts. You might notice spending time with other people sometimes brings out different personality traits. With a loud, outgoing friend you might find yourself similarly energized.
Yet simply being in the presence of others can somewhat alter your experiences, even your self-awareness. These concerns can disconnect you from what you think and feel, making it harder to stay fully present in a given moment.
Being alone grants you the freedom to stay fully present with your true self and experience things as you truly see them. Having fewer friends, in turn, may sometimes allow you to be more in tune with yourself. And often, they can just leave you feeling drained and slightly annoyed.
At work, you talk with co-workers occasionally, but feel no need to make friends. You spend your lunch break reading or listening to music. But your boss seems to be insisting, so you make an effort to be more social. The result? You start feeling anxious as lunchtime approaches and dread the break instead of looking forward to an hour of peace. Losing that time to recharge makes you feel more stressed at work and irritable at home. Before long, you start to resent your boss and co-workers and dislike a job you ly felt very satisfied with.
Whether you realize it or not, your identity is partially shaped by the people in your life. You might see this impact in minor ways: the TV shows you watch, activities you participate in, or the types of exercise you choose. Sometimes, though, the impact is more ificant. Maintaining relationships with others and paying attention to their needs can occasionally detract from your ability to take care of yourself and achieve positive self-growth.
But concern for others can sometimes affect you negatively when it prevents you from supporting yourself. Many people discover this when trying to divide their time between too many friends. Spending more time alone — not out of anxiety but because you enjoy solitude — can lead to greater self-compassion and a stronger motivation to meet your own needs.
It makes sense, then, to prioritize your relationship with yourself. Some people want nothing more than to gather a circle of friends and enjoy their company. Perhaps your ideal evening involves a favorite hobby or craft, cooking a fancy meal for yourself, or a long workout.
Messages from loved ones or society in general might make you feel as if you should spend your free time engaging in social activities. Spending time alone not only gives you more time to focus on what you really want to do, it also helps protect you from stress. Too much socializing likely drains your energy and leaves you in urgent need of solitude.
Introversion is simply one part of your personality, not a flaw you need to address or anything to feel bad about.
Introverted people often have few friends simply because they thrive best without constant companionship. If you already interact with people at work or school, you may not want to dedicate more time to social pursuits once your workday ends. Consistently turning to just one person for friendship and emotional support can put you both at a disadvantage when you struggle to fulfill that role.
If you do desire more emotional support and companionship, a better goal is to find a few close friends to share your time with. You might turn to one friend when you have something difficult on your mind, another when you want to do something adventurous, and a third for movie nights when you want to enjoy some company without necessarily having to interact. That said, loneliness can contribute to mental health symptoms, including anxiety and depression.
Therapy can offer a safe space to cope with feelings of loneliness and get compassionate guidance on strategies for building meaningful connections with others. Crystal Raypole has ly worked as a writer and editor for GoodTherapy. Her fields of interest include Asian languages and literature, Japanese translation, cooking, natural sciences, sex positivity, and mental health. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need to have tons of friends and a packed social calendar to be happy. But there's plenty to be happy…. Everyone deals with friend breakups. But Lexie Manion found that the blow of losing a close friend while she was dealing with depression felt much….
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Legg, Ph. Solitude can promote creativity. Solitude can help you see things differently. Forced friendships benefit no one. Time alone can lead to a better relationship with yourself. Fewer social commitments leaves you with more time to pursue your own interests. Companionship needs vary from person to person. Not everyone has or needs a best friend.
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