Interested in friendship only

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We have lots of great conversations, we'd love you to us. How do I make new friends while making it clear I'm only interested in friendship? Dear Internet friend, I am a 21 year old female college student who is ready to get out in the world and make friends. I am not interested in dating at this time. I'm looking for suggestions for how to begin relationships on the right foot.

I don't want to lead anyone on. I don't want to hang out with people who are interested in me only because they think we are on a date. But I hesitate to tell a new friend "I don't want to date" because then it seems like I am very arrogant and just assume that they are interested in me romantically or physically but a lot of the time they are!

Is there some graceful way of giving someone my phone when they ask and very lightly explaining that I'm only interested in friendship? What are the magic words? If anyone else has had experience navigating these waters, I would be grateful for your advice. Well, you could hang out in groups. Inviting more than one person is always a clear al that no romance is intended. But if you're talking about guys who are explicitly asking for your phone because they want to date you You might want to just look elsewhere for friends, honestly.

Dude: "Want to go to a movie sometime? My boyfriend and I are going out on Saturday, but how about Sunday? Mind if I bring other friends too? I'm glad we met, it's been hard to meet new friends here. Best answer: I seem to meet a lot of girls with your mindset, being a twentysomething male in Austin a singles' city.

The girls who've done this right commit to their program. They don't flirt. They always bring along other friends. They're careful about distance and physical contact especially early on.

Interested in friendship only

The girls who've done this poorly don't know what they want. They lap up the self-esteem boost from the flirtations, and they let the intimacy escalate, thinking to themselves, "okay, maybe this one will be the one to lure me out of my friends-only malaise. Making up a fake boyfriend is not going to get you on the right foot. If you really become friends, they're going to find out that you lied to them eventually.

I think suggesting matching them with other girls won't work either. Some girls like to talk about this stuff even with guys they're interested in one girl said she was going to set me up with one of her friends and then decided she wanted me for herself instead, while the setup was in progress, which I think annoyed her friend. I think the only surefire way to do this is to keep your distance, and that means always hanging out in groups.

If they suggest a thing you'll do together "hey, could I have your ? I'd like to see you again" respond "Totally, I had fun with you tonight. If you're available, you can me and my friend Michael, we're going to go see Avatar! If they want romance, they won't call, or they'll call and suggest you two go somewhere without Michael which gives you the opening to mention the friends thing. Please just be direct. I know, I know, everybody thinks it's neat to be subtle or find some cool way to be evasive. Some smooth, face-saving let-down worthy of a James Bond movie or something.

But honestly, I swear I wish people would just be a little bit more direct, early on, and avoid any misunderstandings or false hope. Something gentle yet unequivocal, like this: Him: "Hey, would you like to go out with me sometime? I'd like to hang out with you as a friend, though.

Interested in friendship only

Maybe we can get a group of folks together and do something? Best answer: This is a tricky one. Unfortunately, I don't think there are any magic words. You can't control anyone else's behavior, or how they interpret your behavior, so you can drive yourself nuts by trying to control how they see you. The best you can do, I think, is to figure out what you want your boundaries to be with someone, try to stick to them, and forgive yourself for your mistakes.

However, I think where you meet people does help define your relationship. If you meet a guy at the bar and he starts chatting you up, he's probably already in the dating-mindset. Try meeting people through mutual interests instead-- a writing group, a kickball team, a hiking club--and you'll have better luck, I think, meeting new people--both guys and girls--who are just looking for new friends like you are.

It's like getting to know someone new by being in the same discussion class together vs. Different vibe, right? And sometimes, I think you just have to learn how to use your words and say awkward, uncomfortable things like, "I'm sorry, but I just want to be friends," when a guy misunderstands your intentions. Also, just some general advice for navigating these waters: trust your own instincts. You don't have to be able to explain rationally why someone is making you uncomfortable. This applies even if and maybe most particularly when you really want something to be okay--when you're saying to yourself, 'We really are just friends and he's not really making me that uncomfortable, and even if he is, he means well, right?

I did this once, successfully, as follows Fella: Would you like to go out for a drink sometime this week? Me: Well, I don't really want to go out on a date at the moment, but I'd enjoy going on a non-date, how about that? Fella: That sounds great. We are still friends some years later. So you're best bet is to seek friendships with other women or gay men. Oh, and another option: make friends with people who are already in a monogamous relationship.

Try and avoid drama by not flirting, and by meeting their partner and then hanging out with both halves of the couple regularly. Doesn't completely remove the chance of unwanted advances, but it does make it easier to respond to them, since if they really do this you can get your angry face on and tell them what a sleaze bag they are. I am a 21 year old female college student who is ready to get out in the world and make friends. Meet your new friends: other young women, and gay men.

As a straight guy that generally keeps more female friends than male, I've heard these lines often. That tends to help keep everything above the boards. My wife is very not-the-jealous-type because she was one of my female friends through several other relationshipsso my female friends hang out with either both of us, or sometimes just me. It's very not a big deal because they know I'm already taken and not really looking for anything else.

The downside to this suggestion is that you might end up as a third wheel, but that's more of an issue for you than for the couple you might hang out with. As long as you don't mind hanging out with couples, you should be fine. So you're best bet is to seek friendships with other women or gay men, " I'll just say that this isn't my experience. If I were treated with the same kind of apprehension by every woman I were friends with, I'd not have had many of the great experiences and platonic relationships I've had.

Other people have given you good advice, but know that there are guys out there that do want to be friends and not cross that line. Yeah, but those guys aren't going to ask a 21 year-old girl for her phone without additional context, such as "you should come over for dinner with my wife and I sometime.

Best answer: Be up front and direct, it really is that simple. Do not try to be subtle or graceful, you need to be totally and completely upfront and point blank, particularly with guys in their early 20s. I'm just looking for strictly friendship, just so you know. This will save you a lot of awkward situations later. But you also have to realize that when they don't call, you can't go calling or contacting them, looking to be "just friends". You laid your situation, so if they don't try to contact you, leave the person be.

Once you are friend with someone, avoid being flirtatious and overly touchy with guys, as it's easy for that to be taken as interest by a guy. I think this URL is answering itself--you make friends while making it clear you're only interested in friendship by 1.

Making friends small print and 2. Making it clear you're only interested in friendship giant flashing print. I would posit that you cannot reasonably expect this to go well in a one-on-one situation. This has to start with mutual friend introductions, a few hours face time with other people still there, and then--only after you have a better sense of the skeeviness of said potential friend--should you try and build a stronger friendship.

Giving a guy a phone is hugely powerful in today's society. It's kid in a candy shop territory. You will have to send extremely strong als that you are not looking for romance or physical contact. As another male who really only has deep friendships with females: most guys aren't right for this.

That sounds like a sexist comment, and consider me among the last to want to apply that kind of blanket statement. But you have no idea the kind of temptation that goes along with familiarity to a nice girl, being alone with said person, dear god her hair smells good, etc. I've seen too many "nice guys" hang all over girls who were engaged to be married when their ificant other wasn't around.

Male impulses suck. You're looking for a special type of guy, and you need to be careful. What you want to do is doable, but please realize that you may find more instances than you'd like where you think the friendship zone is clear, but you start getting advances. You've got to be clear, with no mixed als. And please be careful. Public places, mutual friends, other people who know where you are and who you're with.

Interested in friendship only

Good luck! Geez, I have the opposite problem: I have difficulties making friends with guys without them thinking "Oh lord, she wants my babies. That said, I too find it easier to make friends in a group context, like in a class, orchestra or club. If you have mutual purpose then it's sort of natural you'd talk to each other so it takes out the question of motivation. Yeah, there are plenty of people out there who don't want to do you. Make friends with them, then make friends with guys in a less one-on-one context so you don't have to worry about it.

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