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As I drove up to the garage of the Ronald Reagan Building for an evening event, I locked eyes with a handsome security guard. I found comfort in the nervousness that caused his slip-up — it mirrored my own. This gave me the gumption to inquire about his relationship status and ask for his phone .
The bold act was out of character for me, and I second-guessed it immediately. I did. The men I ly dated tended to have graduate degrees and hold prominent positions, one with a senior-level position at the Department of Defense, one a Harvard-graduate psychiatrist and another a Harvard-graduate education administrator. He has challenged my personal biases, which led me to associate educational attainment with socioeconomic achievement and intellectual ability. When I drove into that garage, I chose to prioritize compatible characteristics over social status — and found a new entryway into dating.
My inclination proved to be the right approach. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, 33 percent more women graduated from American colleges than men in The U. Department of Education expects this figure to increase to 47 percent by I used to not have to worry about such things — I was married and living in Portland, Maine, where my husband was stationed in the Navy. But 12 years ago, I made the decision to leave my marriage. I was a Southern girl with strong family values and parents who made their marriage work by any means necessary.
Single motherhood was never part of my plan. But with my newborn baby girl in my arms, I hopped on an Independence Airlines plane to the Washington, D. The area also provided more professional opportunities in public relations, which I studied at the University of Florida. In the years after my divorce, I took a passive approach to dating. I was taught that a Southern girl always allowed men to pursue.
I prioritized my daughter, my career and self-discovery, in my mind placing our lives on a trajectory that would provide stability, and even some good times, in our future. I found it easy to justify placing dating on the back burner. In college, my friends and I always thought we would marry someone with a degree, like us. Dating came easy for me. Finding men who were serious about commitment and marriage was not. Without fully grasping the statistical ificance of this deficit, which I found out about after meeting Greg, I knew that I had to make a few adjustments to my approach in dating.
It was time to adjust my nonnegotiable husband list. Greg allayed my fear of a relationship with someone with less college education. He has always been transparent regarding his intentions. We attended church together, as friends, within a week of knowing each other.
Three weeks later, he asked me to date him exclusively. Two months later he met my parents and my daughter. I met his mother and his daughter, and we are now discussing marriage with premarital counseling scheduled. I did not find this simplicity in my relationships, where there was inconsistent communication. Conversations in other relationships did not focus on building and growing as a couple, but on whom we knew and where we worked, with an unspoken rule that certain topics were off-limits.
A misconception I had in dating a man with less formal education was that he would be less financially stable. But Greg is ambitious and financially savvy. In addition to working in security, he also owns a small business in Maryland. He at first believed that college should be optional for our children. Greg may be an outlier, but studies show that college graduates earn 56 percent more than high school graduates.
Core values are nonnegotiable, and I share those with Greg. But would I ever be free of it in my dating life? This interracial couple endured bullying — but loved each other until the end. Search Input Search Sections Menu. Sections Menu. in ProfileSolid. By Seleana Bines. July 20, Share this story. Wp Get the full experience. Choose your plan ArrowRight.
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